Quick Reference Guide

What to do if you have concerns about possible abuse

1. Consult the person to whom you are responsible.

2. Decide together whether to seek advice or to make an immediate referral.

3. Keep a record of what happened, your concerns and your actions.

4. Tell your minister and/or safeguarding representative.

5. Only tell others who need to know. In an emergency respond immediately.


Responding to a child, young person, parent or other adult who shares with you about abuse

1. Never promise to keep a secret.

2. React calmly; be aware of your non-verbal messages.

3. Don't stop someone who is talking freely about what has happened.

4. Don't ask leading questions.

5. Reassure the person they have done the right thing by telling you.

6. Avoid making comments or judgements.

7. Tell the person what will happen next.

8. Record using the person's own words and noting any important dates and times.

9. Report to the person to whom you are responsible, your minster and/or safeguarding representative. 


Remember good practice

Treat everyone with respect, setting a positive example.

Respect people's personal space.

Ensure your actions cannot be misinterpreted. 

Challenge unacceptable behaviour in a constructive way.

Do not put yourself or other people in vulnerable situations.

Do not have inappropriate physical contact with others.

Always share safeguarding concerns.


Useful Contacts and Resources

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Connexional Safeguarding Team

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The Child Exploitation and Online Protection (CEOP) Centre is dedicated to eradicating the sexual abuse of children. That means we are part of UK policing and very much about tracking and bringing offenders to account either directly or in partnership with local and international forces.

www.stopitnow.org.uk is a useful website for anyone with concerns about child sexual abuse. The Stop it Now! campaign operates a confidential freephone helpline for any adult with concerns including those worried about the sexual behaviour or another adult towards
children, those worried about their own thoughts or behaviour towards children and those concerned about the worrying sexual behaviour of a child or young person.

www.parentsprotect.co.uk is a child sexual abuse prevention and awareness website which helps parents and carers do the best they can to protect their children from sexual abuse. The site is a useful resource of information, guidance and resources.